Saturday, June 21, 2008

The bikini-clad Cambridge student arrested for attacking spectator at jelly-wrestling match

It doesn't figure highly in the classics curriculum.

Which is why, perhaps, that Cambridge classics student Nadia Witkowski didn't quite manage to get a grip of the jelly wrestling competition rules at an end-of-exams celebration.

The 23-year-old graduate wore the requisite bikini, jumped into the pool and gave quite a good account of herself in the grappling department, easily overcoming her rather more svelte opponent. Jelly fight: Nadia Witkowski (right) during her wrestling match
with a blonde student before things turned nasty
The tables turn: Miss Witkowski's opponent grips her in headlock just seconds before the crowd judge the blonde the winner
Shame: Nadia in handcuffs after the attack

Holding on: The two girls laugh together but the brunette was taking no prisoners


TV's SEXIEST SHOWS

With the second season premiere of the ultra-steamy show "The Tudors" approaching, we noticed our pulses quicken and our cheeks burn, inspiring a frenzied discussion about TV's sexiest series. Click through this slideshow to see which 10 shows made our list.


"The Tudors" is one history lesson that's worth staying up late for. Showtime's look at a young King Henry VIII is filled with intrigue, deception, shocking twists, and most of all, a deliciously sexy cast. Henry's relationship/obsession with Anne Boleyn is the main focus, but his studly right-hand man Charles Brandon also has his way with quite a few 17th-century ladies. Everyone in the cast looks like they just stepped out of a GQ catalog or a Victoria's Secret fashion show, and that's never a bad thing on a cold winter's night.


"Sex and the City" certainly lived up to its name. Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha were four independent New Yorkers with varying outlooks on love and sex. There was Samantha the eldest of the group and a man-eater who preferred one-night stands to monogamy. Goody-two-shoes Charlotte was a prude with a (sometimes) wild streak. Attorney Miranda was a cynic who ironically became the first mom of the group. And Carrie could never shake her love of a guy named "Mr. Big." She also wrote a column about -- you guessed it -- sex, a topic that never seemed to stray far from the gals' juicy conversations.


Trust us, if we knew of a hospital that had as attractive a staff as "Grey's Anatomy's" Seattle Grace, we would find a reason to check ourselves in immediately. But then we'd have to be concerned that our heart surgeon was having sex with an intern in the on-call room. Or that our brain surgeon was having sex with an intern in the on-call room. Or that a surgical resident was having sex with his married amnesia patient in the on-call room. Or that... well you get the idea. Though this steamy show about doctors, nurses, and students and their sticky affairs offers its share of death, disease, and disaster, it still manages to always stay sexy -- in and out of the on-call room.


Sexy, saucy, and often completely over-the-top, this BBC America soap followed the exploits of the players of the Earls Park soccer club as well as their wives and girlfriends. The character of Tanya Turner left the biggest mark as she was constantly marrying/divorcing/poisoning her husbands and was frequently caught in ridiculous and often extremely sexual situations. The rest of the "Footballers' Wives" were always dressed to the nines for public appearances, but scantily clad in their homes. As this is a British show, a little more flesh than normal was shown, and the writers took the series to a place shows such as "Desperate Housewives" could only dream of.



Showtime's fan favorite, "L Word" follows the lives and loves of LA's sexiest lesbians. Need we say more? Drenched in soapy, often humorous drama, every show is laced with erotica that can curl a straight woman's toes. Jennifer Beals, Mia Kirshner, Marlee Matlin and others bare their hearts (and more) each week for a rabid and eager following.

"Rome" was the highly acclaimed historical drama that chronicled ancient Rome's rocky transition from Republic to Empire through the eyes of two common soldiers, Lucius Vorenus and Titus Pullo. Full of backstabbing, betrayal, family feuds and hedonistic pleasures, the show managed to blend violence, intrigue and sex into an epic storytelling masterpiece which quickly rose from guilty pleasure to can't-miss, edge-of-your seat TV. The women of "Rome" like Atia of the Julii and Cleopatra, were as dangerous as the centurion soldiers, and used sex and their feminine wiles to obtain power.


Don't let the plaid prep school uniforms and girlie hair bows fool you. CW's "Gossip Girl" may be aimed at the teen set, but this soapy drama is dripping with racy glamour, juicy exploits and edge-of-your-seat sexual tension. The lifestyles of these filthy rich and fiercely fabulous Upper East Side kids are filled with outrageous and over-the-top scandal that results in addictive TV viewing. The ever-changing friendships and hookups (especially ones in the back of a stretch limo) amidst envy, lust and greed are the kinds of stuff voyeuristic viewers eat up.


Small town Texas life may not strike most folks as super sexy, but "Friday Night Lights" has all of the basic ingredients. It's simple. Take a hunky male cast, pair it with a hot female cast, add some storylines that bring them together on steamy Texas nights (maybe even three of the hottest cast members at one time), and you have yourself one of the sexiest shows on TV. Take, for instance, the obvious chemistry between bad boy football stud Tim Riggins and cutesy girl-next-door Lyla Garrity, who engaged in a forbidden affair. It really doesn't get any hotter than that!


Wedged between those big-haired, shoulder-padded dramas of the '80s and the risqué reality shows of the new millennium, the '90s brought us a primetime sexy soap about a group of beautiful single people who lived in an L.A. apartment complex called "Melrose Place" and who all really enjoyed sleeping with each other. Between the love affairs, office make-out sessions, catfights that ended in the pool, and Heather Locklear's sky-high short skirts, this clearly was a very sexy show.



Like the show's theme song says, these wannabe supermodels want it all… and they'll bare it all to get what they want. "Make Me A Supermodel" delivers TV's hottest catwalk, where both the extremely good-looking guys and the gorgeous girls have donned butt-baring thongs and skimpy bathing suits. They've competed in a photo shoot challenge involving tongue wrestling, biting, sexy lingerie, leather whips, and a whole lot of naughty foreplay. And that's just the tip of the iceberg, since these models have also dropped their towels and posed completely nude for art students. Sign us up for that class! Unabashed about exposing skin and promoting sexuality, "Make Me A Supermodel" is one competition reality show with no qualms about embracing sex and scandal.


12 dead in stampede at Mexico nightclub

MEXICO CITY - Panicked youths rushed for the exits during a police raid on a Mexico City nightclub on Friday, leaving at least 12 people dead in the crush of bodies, the capital's police chief said.


Chief Joel Ortega said three police officers and nine youths, at least three of them minors, were killed. At least 13 others were injured.

Police went to the News Divine club in the working-class district of Nueva Atzacoalco in the early evening to check reports of drugs and alcohol being sold to minors.

Ortega told the Televisa network the club's owner announced to the crowd that the officers were there to arrest them, causing a stampede. He denied earlier media reports that officers threw tear gas inside the club, and also said no shots were fired.

At a news conference later Friday, Ortega said about 500 young people — more than the club's capacity — were there to celebrate the end of the school year and many more were waiting in line to get in.

Clubs in Mexico often host afternoon "tardeada" parties for clubbers as young as 16, though only patrons 18 and up are allowed to drink alcohol.

Ortega said the venue had a single entrance plus an emergency exit, which was obstructed by cases of beer.

"Many of the people concentrated at the club's emergency exit, but it was too small and it was there that people died of asphyxia," Ortega told Televisa.

Television images showed glittery high-heel shoes and T-shirts strewn over the dance floor. Bodies covered with white sheets lay by the club's entrance.

Ortega said the club, which charged a cover of US$3, was closed down last year due to several safety and other violations, but the owner won an injunction and reopened the place.

Police detained 39 people including the owner, he added.

Dozens of riot police were sent to control a crowd of sobbing relatives and friends that gathered at the scene.

Friday, June 20, 2008

ANarkali Vs Duminda newest

Politico and TV star in love-tiff



The two worlds of politics and cinema clashed yesterday when well known film and television actress Anarkali Akarsha yesterday lodged a complaint at the Kollupitiya Police Station, claiming that, SLFP Western Provincial Councillor Duminda Silva was trying to forcibly carry her away.




Silver and small screen star Anarkali Akarsha waves to media personnel before leaving the Kollupitiya Police Station where she lodged a complaint against her beau Western Provincial Councillor Duminda Silva alleging he was trying to forcibly take her away. Pic by Nissanka Wijeratne

Police Spokesman SSP Ranjith Gunasekara told The Bottom Line that, Anarkali had made a statement to the police, to the effect that, she had been living with Silva at Jaic Hilton Colombo for the last seven months, but had left him about a week ago, because he was ill-treating her and preventing her from pursuing her film career. The Police Spokesman said that the actress had complained that Silva was being overly strict with her.

"The couple had met again at Crescat Boulevard in Kollupitiya and Silva had urged her to come back with him, but she had refused. She had made the complaint alluding to her security," SSP Gunesekara added.

The Kollupitiya police had also recorded a statement from Western Provincial Councillor Silva of the alleged incidents.

SSP Gunesekera declined to reveal what Silva had said in his statement to the police but claimed that the politico had accepted the charges.
Several attempts were made to contact Silva but the provincial councilor could not be reached.

Friday, June 13, 2008

Yahooh Google Partnership


Sunnyvale -- Yahoo! Inc. and Google Inc. have agreed to a plan in which Google-brokered ads will appear with some Yahoo! search results, the Los Angeles Times said Thursday.







Yahoo, based in Sunnyvale, Calif., announced the deal following the end of talks with Microsoft Corp.

Microsoft had announced earlier in the day it and Yahoo! had broken off talks on "an alternative transaction" following the collapse of talks two weeks on a Microsoft acquisition of Yahoo!

In a statement, Yahoo!, said the deal with Google could be worth an additional $800 million in its annual revenue.

In addition to Google-brokered ads appearing along with some Yahoo! search results, such ads would also appear on some of Yahoo!'s Web pages.

Yahoo! said the deal is non-exclusive, so it is free to reach similar agreements with other ad providers, the newspaper reported.

The companies said they would wait 3 ½ months before inaugurating the new arrangement to give the Justice Department time to review it, even though they said it did not requite regulatory approval.

Microsoft had been exploring acquisition of Yahoo! as part of a strategy to rival Google in the Web advertising market, but the effort instead led to the new arrangement between Yahoo! and Google, the Times said.

Yahoo Merge Google


Well well well............................... wooooooooooooohoooooooooo

yahoo is finally getting its way with the google............


The latest

NEW YORK -

Shares of Yahoo Inc. fell in premarket trading Friday after the Internet pioneer ended Microsoft Corp.'s bid to merge the companies and instead sought a deal with rival Google Inc.

Yahoo (nasdaq: YHOO - news - people ) announced its decision to let Google (nasdaq: GOOG - news - people ) handle some of its advertising sales late Thursday, leaving Microsoft (nasdaq: MSFT - news - people )'s $47.5 billion buyout offer for dead.

Yahoo shares lost 2.3 percent to $22.97 from Thursday's close of $23.52, while Microsoft's stock rose 9 cents_ a third of a percent - to $28.33. Google shares rose $6.05, just over one percent, to $559 in early action.

Shares of Perfect World Co. Ltd. soared 9 percent to $23.85 after the Chinese online gaining company raised its guidance for the second quarter on favorable marketing results and new product launches.



well today Yahoo is giving some its work to the Google ..........

and in the future .............. what.?????????

Microsoft-Yahoo Merger Crashes


The software giant abandoned its plans to merge with Yahoo this weekend. Meanwhile the search engine is reportedly teaming up with its chief competitor, Google.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Don't Marry a girl from SOFTWARE Field

Never marry a Testing girl since she always doubts U .

Never marry a DATABASE girl since she always wants her husband to be a UNIQUE key.

Never
marry a C girl because she always have a tendency to BREAK the things and EXIT from house.

Never
marry a C++ girl as u may encounter some problems in INHERITANCE.

Never
marry a JAVA girl since she always throws EXCEPTIONS.

Never
marry a VB girl since she has divorce FORM with her always.

Never
marry a UNIX girl ,she always dump u with a core.

Never
marry a PASCAL girl ,she always scolds u as rascal.

Never
marry a COBOL girl since she may be very good in DIVISION of families.

Never
marry a NETWORK girl since she may be very good in shooting troubles .

Better marry a girl not belonging to SOFTWARE FAMILY



MARRY A GIRL FROM A "HARD"WARE FAMILY


why every body buys Apple ......???????????

well i have never bought an Aplle product for myself.
Well may be because I am sri Lanakan and I do not much money to spent on high cost apple products, and availability of Apple products are not common in Sri Lanka, and even thogh you buy those very difficult to get the customer dervice from Sri Lanka......etc

Those few reason i may be consider buying an Apple product.

But when come to the Apple products..It's really fantastic. more they have a very colorful user interfaces and make you feel flourish......
I always loved the Apple Icons...
So if Apple .. , it is the rea look and technology

When this new version of Windows came "Vista" we use to say
when Windows becoming mature.. day by day
It becomes APPLE daily......

So it is an exmple how name Apple has gone to the minds of the people..
It has been a very good brand name and already maintained its flow of return to the end customer satisfaction.....

When iPhone came same expected from Apple..
people expected another revoltionary effects from the iPhone....

when it came to the market..
.....................WOW.........
that 's the feeling
and with the new vrsion........
it becomes cheaper by day ..........

Apple rings up 3G for new iPhone



In what may have been the worst-kept secret in Apple announcements of late, CEO Steve Jobs announced a 3G version of the iPhone on Monday, along with a slew of new third-party applications designed for the device.
The new iPhone will use third-generation wireless technology and run updated iPhone 2.0 software. It's expected to launch July 11, Jobs said in his keynote speech at the Worldwide Developers Conference in San Francisco. The iPhone will also be cheaper than its predecessor, with a 16GB version priced at $299 and an 8GB version that costs $199.
That upgrade in wireless technology is key. While on stage, Jobs compared how quickly the old and new versions loaded the National Geographic home page. The 3G version loaded the page in 5 seconds, while the older version took 18 seconds. The lack of next-generation wireless has kept a lot of potential international buyers who are accustomed to 3G service overseas from opting for the iPhone.


Hardware features include longer battery life, a flush headphone jack, silver button controls on the side of the phone, and a plastic back case that comes in black or white (for the 16GB version only).
But a large part of Monday's news was focused on software, too. As expected, Jobs announced the upcoming iPhone App Store, the foundation for which was laid out in March when he announced the release of the iPhone software development kit. Since the SDK was released, third-party developers have been busy writing applications specifically designed to run on the iPhone.






During his keynote speech Monday, Jobs brought a string of developers on stage to demo the fruits of all that labor. Featured applications included a mobile-blogging app from SixApart; a new version of Super Monkey Ball from Sega; an application from eBay that allows users to monitor their bids; an application from Modality that gives medical students up-close views of human body parts to help them study anatomy; an application that gives near real-time updates on Major League Baseball games; an Associated Press app that sends out local news based on where a user is; and a service from Loopt that lets people see where their friends are at any given time. (You can see a roundup of demos of each of these apps here.)
For its part, Apple is bringing GPS to the iPhone, along with a new service called MobileMe, which is essentially an update of the current .Mac service. Subscribers to the MobileMe get push e-mail, contacts, and calendars on the iPhone, and can also access their photo galleries remotely. That service costs $99 per year.
The iPhone 3G will launch in 22 countries on July 11 and will roll out to a total of 70 by the end of the year, Jobs said. It should arrive in Russia and China later this year, Jobs said in an interview Monday on CNBC. "I think you'll see those later this year," he said. In China, the company is awaiting regulatory approval, he added.
CNET News.com's Tom Krazit and Stephen Shankland contributed to this report.

Monday, June 9, 2008

New iPhone Apps Complement iPhone 3G

Apple chief executive Steve Jobs unveiled the new 3G iPhone in his keynote address at Apple's Worldwide Developer Conference (WWDC) in San Francisco Monday morning. But the new phone was also surrounded by a host of third-party applications that took advantage of its new features.
There were also several unexpected corollary announcements. Among them, the 3G iPhone will be available in an 8GB version for $199—part of a goal to make the iPhone more affordable. (A 16GB version will sell for $299, and come in white and black.) The 3G iPhone also offers GPS, which works with expanded location-based services. Jobs also announced a number of new initiatives, including a mobile roaming state service called MobileMe, slated to replace Apple's .mac service.
"This is the phone that has changed phones forever," Jobs said in confirming the 3G iPhone. It will go on sale in 70 countries on July 11 – a major increase for Apple in distribution, and far exceeding the company's "stretch goal". The new iPhone includes full support for Microsoft Exchange ActiveSync, a move intended to attract more enterprises and business users, and runs hundreds of third party applications already built with the recently released iPhone SDK.
In a series of demonstrations designed to show that the iPhone's 3G speeds approach Wi-Fi speeds and outdo other 3G phones, Jobs showed the iPhone 3G loading a complex web page in 21 seconds, compared to 59 seconds for the same page using the EDGE service. He also showed it working 36 percent faster than the Nokia N95 and the Treo 750—two competitive 3G phones. Jobs claims the phone offers 5 hours of talk time, five to six hours of browsing, two hours of video and 24 hours of audio, although these should be taken with a grain of salt.
"One of the benefits of fast data is GPS," Jobs said. He showed some unusual GPS interface features on the new phone, including views of a car traveling down a street shown on a map as GPS updates streamed in and showed the location of the car.
The 3G iPhone also has some design enhancements. It has the traditional 3.5-inch screen, but offers a flush headphone jack, several audio quality enhancements, and is thinner at the edges.
Much of the keynote address on Monday was dedicated to showing applications built with the iPhone 2.0 SDK, including Auctions for eBay, several games (including Super Monkey Ball from Sega), a mashup for getting Associated Press news and videos, TypePad mobile blogging, medical applications from Modality, and a very slick application from an individual developer called Cow Music. Cow Music lets you play grand piano, drums, and mix instrumental tracks on an iPhone. The iPhone 2.0 SDK will be available in early July, free to all iPhone users and $9.95 for iPod Touch users.Apple's recently released App Store is targeted to start housing hundreds of iPhone applications, and Apple has some other application distribution strategies afoot. Enterprises will now be able to release applications only for use by their employees through an app authorization scheme, and a new ad-hoc release initiative will allow individuals to share applications in closed groups. For example, a professor could have students sharing iPhone applications only for use among themselves.
Apple's executive vice president of marketing Phil Schiller took the stage to demonstrate a new roaming service, especially for iPhone users but also useful for all Mac users, called MobileMe. Think of Flickr with a lot of useful interface enhancements for photo organizing online, plus web-based e-mail, contacts and other applications all under one roof, and accessible wirelessly. MobileMe, due in July, will cost $99 a year, and includes 20GB of free online storage. (There is a 60-day free trial planned.)
MobileMe does replace the .mac service, but .mac users can continue to use .mac, and use .mac extensions.
Jobs said that just a couple of weeks short of the iPhone's first birthday, six million iPhones have sold. He claims that 98 percent of iPhone users do mobile browsing on the phones "up from essentially zero."
Jobs also said that there are a record 5,200 attendees at Apple's WWDC this week, and that the week will offer many new sessions. There will be a session on the iFund, targeted to let developers know how they can get paid for iPhone applications, and there will be sessions on Snow Leopard, the next version of Mac OS X.

I t's in INDIA - Karnataka - Bangalore

A 10 year old boy, had eaten pineapple about 15 days back,
and fell sick, from the day he had eaten.
Later when he had his Health check done..... doctors diagnosed that he had AIDS.
His parents couldn't believe
it...Then the entire family under went a checkup...
none of them suffered from Aids.
So the doctors checked again with the boy if he had eaten out....
The boy said "yes". He had pineapple that evening. Immediately a group from the hospital went to the pineapple vendor to check.
They found the pineapple seller had a cut on his finger while cutting the pineapple; his blood had spread into the fruit.
When they had his blood checked...the guy was suffering from AIDS...but he himself was NOT aware.
Unfortunately the boy is suffering from it now. Please take care while u eat on the road side (particularly tasty vada pav & Paani Puri) and pls fwd this mail to your dear one's. PEOPLE PLEASE TAKE CARE PLEASE FORWARD THIS MAIL TO ALL THE PERSONS YOU KNOW AS YOUR MESSAGE MAY SAVE ONE'S LIFE !!!!!


This is a mail i got........
well as i know spreading AIDS as in this scenario only can happen

scenario 1-
---------

if blood has been shed on the pine apple and... and same time boy also cut his finger touching pine apple as pine apples can damge your fingers and let AIDS virus to penetrate childs system.....


Scenario 2-
-----------
I don't know whether the AIDS virus can go throgh the our stomach and play areal game......
well my knowledge , in scenarion- 1 can happen.......but in
scenarion -2
yo won't sucummbed to AIDS....else that HIV vrus is a new version where it has new spreading patterns and survival ability....

China Earthquake -Wedding Photo Shoot - A Day To Remember

It was a day to remember...

Their Wedding shoot.


At the famous 100-year-old Church of the Annunciation in Pengzhou, China.

Very early morning May 12, photographer Wang went about preparing to shoot
wedding pictures for a young couple, this was the test shot before the shoot...




Bricks fall from the building during the earthquake, which turned Wang from a
wedding photographer into a journalist.

'Thank God we were only shooting from outside the church!' remarked a helper.





Bricks fall from the building during the earthquake, which turned Wang from a
wedding photographer into a journalist.

'Thank God we were only shooting from outside the church!' remarked a helper.




The stunned couple huddles together at the church ground during initial tremors.

'I shouted to people, 'Run! Run!'' said photographer Wang Qiang.
'The ground shook and we couldn't see anything in the dust.'

As the dust began to clear, the true extent of damage was only beginning to appear...


A cracked facade was all that remained of the 100-year-old Church of the
Annunciation after the quake. Most of the church 'collapsed in 10 seconds,' said Wang,
who lives in Chengdu, capital of hard-hit Sichuan province.




Soon after the quake, the people at the seminary set out for a nearby village,
but residents warned them the route was blocked. 'We could still hear landslides,'
Wang wrote in an online account of the disaster. So they stayed overnight in a
tent and made it to the village the next day, thanks to help from a truck driver.




A scarf from a wedding dress lies forgotten in front of the seminary.
Wang said he thought the catastrophe would strengthen the bonds of
the couples who were there that day: 'Having gone through a life-and-death test,
they surely will clasp hands and grow old together.'

No one was harmed at the above location.

They'll sure have a Wild story to tell there Children!





Japanese Prime Minister's English skills

This is a true story from the Japanese Embassy in US!!!

A few years ago,Japanese Prime Minister Mori was given some basic English conversation training before he visits Washington and meets President Bill Clinton...

The instructor told Mori,the Japanese Premier, when you shake hand with President Clinton, please say 'how are you'

Then Mr. Clinton should say, 'I am fine, and you?'
Now, you should say 'me too'. Afterwards we, translators, will do the work for you.'

It looks quite simple, but the truth is...

When Mori met Clinton , he mistakenly said
'Who are you?' (instead of 'How are you'?'. )

Mr. Clinton was a bit shocked but still managed to react with humor:
'Well, I'm Hillary's husband, ha-ha...'

Then Mori replied
'me too, ha-ha.. .'.

Then there was a long silence in the meeting room.

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

Power of Positive Talk

Power of Positive Talk


I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.
One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.
I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did. fall.

My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball.

My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.
Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do.
Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.

The point is made.

If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar.

If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite."
People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary.

My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.
These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.





Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.
So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, " I'm fat. Nobody will like me. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc."
If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue.
Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.

Notice when you or other people use them.

Ø But: Negates any words that are stated before it.
Ø Try: Presupposes failure.
Ø If: Presupposes that you may not.
Ø Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener..
Ø Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
Ø Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)
Ø Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
Ø Can't/Don't: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.
Examples:
Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"
Likely result: Drops the ball
Better language: "Catch the ball!"

Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!"
Exercise: Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.





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